Shane Kelly Intergrated Healing

Healing That Meets You Where You Are: Survival, Building, Integration

My name is Shane Kelly. I am Séma:th First Nation, in Stó:lō territory. I have been sober since 2008.I hold a Bachelor of Social Work, but my real education came from sitting in circles, learning from Elders, and walking my own recovery path. I am familiar with Stó:lō culture and continue to learn the 7 Laws. But I do not claim to be a master of either. What I carry is my own sqwélqwel (my story).I offer one-on-one coaching, healing circles, workshops, and speaking. My work is organized around a three-tier framework: Survival, Building, and Integration. I work mostly with people in Building and Integration people who are stable and ready to do the real work. The hard work. The work that changes everything.I do not claim to have all the answers. But I have walked this road. I know what it took to get free. And I know how to help others do the same.

About me

My name is Shane Kelly. I am from Séma:th, a Stó:lō community. I have been walking the recovery path for 18 years.I hold a Bachelor of Social Work, but my deepest education came from sitting in circles, learning from Elders and knowledge keepers, and listening to other people on their healing journeys. I continue to learn from them today.My three-tier system: Survival, Building, Integration, came directly from my own recovery. I learned that I needed to heal from trauma and addiction before I could learn boundaries. I needed boundaries before I could fix my failed relationships, my unsatisfying dating life, and my social anxiety. I needed all of that before I could become bold, motivated, and able to ask for help. This has been my experience in healing. Each phase taught me more about myself and now I want to pass this knowledge on to you.In early recovery, what kept me going was watching other people live fun, joyous, sober lives. I saw that a fulfilling life free from substances was possible. I wanted what they had.I work primarily with Indigenous men because I understand feeling lost in identity. I understand the hurt, the pain, and the trauma of our historic impacts. Too many of our men are emotionally shut off, stuck in survival mode. But I am also open to working with allies who are committed to their own healing and to supporting Indigenous resurgence.One teaching has stayed with me: everyone has a gift, and it is important to find what that is. I help men uncover their gifts.I facilitate support groups that draw from Stó:lō teachings, the 7 Laws, and 12-step recovery principles. My approach is not a replacement for any program. It is a complement to the work people are already doing. I am still learning, and I share what I know with honesty and humility.Our communities heal one person at a time. The more individuals who do this hard work, the more our communities will thrive.I bring knowledge of both Western systems and our Stó:lō world. I help bridge the gap.Here is what I want you to know: You can unlock the best version of yourself. It requires looking at the hard parts you do not want to look at. But you do not have to do it alone.

Services

What I Offer and Why Work With Me

You already know what is not working. You have tried to fix it on your own. Maybe you have even tried other programs. But something is still holding you back. That is where I come in. I have been sober since 2008. I have walked through the shame, the anger, the feeling of being stuck. I know what it takes to get unstuck. In our sessions, I do not just give you advice. I walk with you. We look at the patterns that keep you trapped. We build boundaries. We figure out who you are and what you actually want. I will not sugarcoat it. The work is hard. But you do not have to do it alone.My services are designed to meet people where they are at. While my work is guided by Stó:lō teachings and the values I am learning from the 7 Laws, I am still a student of these traditions. I share what I know with humility and respect. I work with Indigenous men, I am also open to working with women and allies who are committed to their own healing and to supporting Indigenous resurgence. Whether you are in crisis, feeling stuck, or ready for deeper transformation, I offer a clear path forward.

One-on-One Coaching

For Indigenous men, women, and allies who are ready to do the work. Coaching is personalized to your unique needs and goals.Focus areas include:Boundaries and people-pleasingAddiction recovery supportShadow work and emotional literacyIdentity and purposeBuilding confidence and motivationBuild dating and relationship skills.Format: 60-minute sessions. No weekly commitment required—you choose the frequency that works for you.Availability: Weekends and alternating Fridays/Mondays.Pricing: Available upon request. Sliding scale available for Indigenous clients.

Healing Circles (Contract)

Weekly or bi-weekly support circles. I have been facilitating these circles for over three years. I know what it feels like to be lost and I know what it takes to find your way back. A safe space to be seen, heard, and supported by others walking the same path. I can help your community get a circle started and train someone to take over running it once it is established.Who this is for:First Nations bands and communities (men's circles, women's circles, or mixed)Indigenous treatment centresSection 81 Healing Lodges (Indigenous prisons)Recovery programs and sober living homesNon-profits serving Indigenous people and alliesFormat: 90-minute circles.Note: People do not just come to heal; they come to connect, to learn, and to find purpose. My circles create a space where people can show up as they are and find a reason to keep showing up.Pricing: Contact me for community and organizational rates.

Workshops (1–3 Hours)

Custom workshops for bands, treatment centres, and organizations. Designed to meet the specific needs of your community or program.Topics include:
-Boundaries and identity
-The three-tier healing framework
-Shadow work
-Breaking cycles and building legacy
-Stó:lō teachings and the 7 Laws in recoveryFormat: 1–3 hours. Starting here to build confidence and trust before offering longer sessions.Who this is for:
-First Nations bands and communities
-Indigenous treatment centres
-Health authorities
-Non-profits serving Indigenous people and alliesPricing: Contact me for a quote. Honorariums for Elders, drummers, and helpers are included in workshop budgets when appropriate.

TextKeynote Speaking (Under Development)

30–90 minute presentations on:Integrated healingThe three-tier healing framework18 years of recovery: what I learnedBridging Western and Indigenous worldsStatus: Researching and developing. Not yet offering.

Digital Products (Coming Soon)

Workbooks on boundaries, addiction, identity, and social confidenceOnline courses on the three-tier frameworkFree crisis guide: "The First 72 Hours"

How to Hire Me

I am available for:Contract work with First Nations bands and communitiesContracts with FNHA, Fraser Health, and other health authoritiesOne-on-one coaching for individualsMy availability: Weekends and alternating Fridays/Mondays.To get started: Email [email protected] or use the contact form below.

The Three-Tier Healing Framework

Survival → Building → Integration

Most people stay stuck because they chase purpose before they have learned boundaries, or they chase boundaries before they have stabilized their addiction or trauma. My three-tier system meets you where you are and guides you up your path to success. By healing and facing yourself. The blockages to your path gets cleared for a full-filling life.A note on my role: I am a coach and facilitator, not a crisis worker or primary support. My work is best suited for people who have stabilized their crisis and are ready to build skills, identity, and purpose. If you are in crisis, I will help you find the right supports, but I cannot be your only lifeline.

Tier 1: Survival

Tier 1: Survival
Who this is for: People in crisis. Active addiction. Suicidal thoughts. Severe trauma. Just trying to make it through the day.What they need: Immediate safety. Grounding tools. Crisis resources. One hour at a time.What I offer:Free resources on how to find support groups and tools for staying soberA free crisis guide – "The First 72 Hours" (downloadable) link belowSocial media content with tools and guidance for people in early recoveryWhat I do not offer: One-on-one coaching, intensive crisis support, primary counselling, treatment referrals, detox intake, or ongoing case management. Tier 1 clients need more support than I can give alone.The goal: Point you toward resources that can help you stabilize. You must participate in your own rescue. Tier 1 is about the work I had to do before I could move forward. If you choose to do that work, these tools are available to you.

• The First 72 Hours

For Professionals Working with Tier 1 Clients

If you are a counsellor, social worker, or frontline worker supporting clients in crisis, I want to support you too.What I offer other professionals:
-Support on dealing with moral distress-Reframing the importance of grounding and self-regulation-This means having your own self-care plan-Understanding the reality that clients must participate in their own rescue-Guidance on maintaining solid boundaries and a strong sense of self while doing this work-A reminder that you cannot pour from an empty cupThe goal: Help you sustain yourself so you can sustain others.

Tier 2: Building

Who this is for: People who are stable but stuck. People-pleasers. Social anxiety. No boundaries. No purpose. Feeling lost.What they need: Practical skills. Boundaries. Confidence. Emotional literacy. A sense of identity.What I offer:One-on-one coachingHealing circlesWorkshops for bands and organizationsFree workbooks on boundaries and identityWhy work with me: I have been where you are. I know what it feels like to be stable but stuck, to have no boundaries, to feel lost. I also know what it takes to build something different. I do not have all the answers, but I have walked this road and I know how to help others walk it too.Who this is for: Clients who have done their own healing work and are ready to build. If you are still in active crisis, Tier 1 resources are available to you. If you are stable and ready to grow, I am here.The goal: Build the foundation. Teach the tools. Help you start showing up differently.

Tier 3: Integration

Who this is for: People who have done the foundational work and are ready for deeper transformation. Purpose. Mission. Shadow work. Legacy.What they need: Advanced inner work. Accountability. Brotherhood/sisterhood. A long-term vision.What I offer:Intensive coachingAdvanced support groupsHealing circlesShadow work facilitationKeynote speaking (coming soon)The goal: Help you become who you were meant to be. Break cycles. Build legacy.

The Core Insight (Pull Quote)

Most people stay stuck because they cannot get passed Tier 1 and Tier 2.**They want purpose (Tier 3) before they have learned boundaries (Tier 2) or stabilized their addiction or trauma (Tier 1).My job is to find out where they are, support them and guide them to the place they want to thrive in their life. You deserve the best quality that life has to offer.

Contact

Let's Connect

I am currently available for:One-on-one coaching for individualsContract work with First Nations bands and communitiesWorkshops and healing circles for organizations, treatment centres, and health authoritiesMy availability is weekends and alternating Fridays and Mondays. I work within Stó:lō territory and surrounding regions, and virtually across Canada.Email: [email protected]Location: Serving British Columbia (in-person within Stó:lō territory and surrounding regions) and virtually across Canada.To book a discovery call: Use the form below or email me directly. I offer a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your needs and see if we are a good fit.